I went to a yoga class today and, having had a busy day in the midst of midterms, I was kind of distracted and thus messing up all over the place. Then we were in a somewhat balance-y pose and I completely fell over. Which is fine, it happens, but for some reason I had the strangest response to this. Sure I picked myself up and got back into the pose, but I was so embarassed that I felt I had to apologize. I apologized. To the yoga teacher. To the whole class. Sorry. I’m sorry for losing my balance. And the teacher, a fun, sassy kinda gal who hadn’t seemed thrilled with all my falling all over the place up until this point also had an unexpected respond. She said: “It’s good when people fall over, it means they really went for it.”
And I think she got that right. You only fall over, you only fail, when you try in the first place. And the harder you try, the harder you might fall. And I think we can agree that it’s better to try and then fall on your face than to just sit there doing nothing.
That said, if you try for too much at once, then you’re probably being overzealous and the fall from that attempt might hurt you more than it helps you. Example: I was in a beginners class, doing a beginners level pose. Taking an advanced class right now wouldn’t be pushing myself to greater heights, it would be setting myself up to fall off a cliff.
So, as my rabbi in seminary said last year when we were working on really big projects, don’t be afraid to fail big. Try it out, see what happens. But, as I’m saying right now, from experience, try not to set yourself up to fail TOO big. As always, find that middle ground, people, find that middle ground.
*Outfits of the day are on hiatus this week, due to said midterms. With help from above we’ll be back to our regular programming next week